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04 July 2011 @ 09:09 pm
 
My parents are overwhelmingly protective and interfering and just won't let me be. I recently got a job and a good one at that so the option of not listening to them and doing what I want is available but I just can't do that to them. For one, they fight so much as it is and I can't bear them fighting even more. I sometimes even pretend to be happy just to change the mood but its tiring and I don't think I can do it any longer. I feel like my life is just a long wait for some way in which it can be mine. I want to do the things I have wanted to do and they are sane, normal ones. I want to travel, do volunteer work - maybe even join the peace corps, learn a foreign language, etc. I saw my childhood diary and nearly cried because I hadn't done anything yet.
 
 
 
Julielivepoetically on July 5th, 2011 04:40 am (UTC)
If you have a job that will enable you to support yourself, by all means, move out! I wasn't able to stay out, but the times I moved out were the best times of my life. Trust me, you can't make your parents stop fighting. And it's not your job to. They have to work out their own problems just like you do, just like everyone does. Don't hold yourself responsible for their happiness.

Good luck to you!
Jomyobsession on August 30th, 2011 07:40 am (UTC)
How do you mean interfering?

My parents have always argued, so much that i kinda became the peacekeeper of the family. Thankfully they're getting divorced soon. I haven't done anything either> my advice is to start planning what you want to do, start saving for travel, get some language books or something like that. Tell your parents that you appreciate them looking out for you but you want to be treated like a grown up.

I hope this helps, <3
bekababimae on August 30th, 2011 05:53 pm (UTC)
Wow. This sounds just like my family/life. I definitely know how you feel, as I have been in a similar boat my whole life. I have to say that I agree with the above advise, so I won't repeat it. I just want to really encourage you to become more independent, not just financially (which may or may not be feasible for you right now anyway), but in how you live your life. It sounds like you may be a bit like me and end up doing what they want just to make them happy, and ignore the desires of your heart. I encourage you to live your life to the fullest and to be who God created you to be.

I recently got a job and a good one at that so the option of not listening to them and doing what I want is available but I just can't do that to them.

Please take a moment just to consider what it is doing to YOU. I'm sure your parents love you very much and are doing what they feel is best for you. But honestly, as an adult it should be God leading you at this point and not your parents. It is wise to seek their advise when needed, but it shouldn't still be the same as when you were a child. That relationship is supposed to change as you get older. Pursuing the desires of your heart should not be equated with rejecting your parents. Anyway, I hope this helps. <3